Parental Tips

  • Be aware of the unique challenges and opportunities facing today's college students, including the academic and non-academic expectations for your student as a university student.

  • Learn about student support services at Rutgers University and understand how your student can access these services.

  • Challenge your student to identify, define, and solve problems independently.

  • Encourage your student to set and achieve her/his personal goals and make responsible decisions related to academics, career planning, social interactions, and community engagement.

  • Understand and support Rutgers University commitment to its core mission of preparing our students to become productive members of society and good citizens of the world.

  • Empower your student to examine her/his personal values.

  • Encourage your student to learn about and respect the values and beliefs of others.

  • Support your student as he/she faces conditions of uncertainty and learns to perform in complex environments and challenging situations.

  • Allow your student to accept consequences of his/her actions and accept responsibility for personal errors; urge him or her to examine disappointments and unexpected experiences in order to assess what caused them, what can be done about them, and how to avoid them in the future.

  • Understand the role parents play as mentors to their student.

  • Know and understand limitations to access student records, as delineated by federal requirements. http://compliance.rutgers.edu/ferpa
  • Promote self-advocacy by allowing your student to make decisions independently.
  • Allow your student to learn from mistakes made within the safe environment provided in college.

  • Be alert to signs that your student is under significant stress, is taking unhealthy risks, or is ill; if you have any concerns, discuss them openly with your student and assist her/him in developing a plan to address the problem.

  • If your student's physical or mental health is endangered, contact appropriate campus or community authorities.

  • Understand that parent and family members, as primary supporters of your students, are part of the university community.

  • Participate in campus events; your participation supports and encourages all students as they learn, perform, lead, or serve through campus and community activities.

  • Assist other parent and family members in understanding the student experience.

  • Promote goodwill on behalf of higher education at the state and federal level.